If you want to know, just ask.
Also, if you're young and very beautiful, please avoid saying nice things to me, I have a tendency to fall in love very easily. Sort of creates an issue with my wife (who is aware of my weakness - which I guess she took advantage of at one point, too).
A little advice to the guys of chess.com. I see a lot of you making some really vulgar remarks to the ladies here. Let me tell you (and I'm guessing I'm a little older than most of you), you don't get any feminine company in life until you learn to talk to women ( and show them you're not an idiot and can be respectful). Just my two cents.