sorry about your brother but welcome back to chess
as for the tournament time thing it sounds like you are wanting to start a "live" chess tournament
check out the live chess section, there might be something there that will help
http://www.chess.com/livechess/index.html
I know I'm new here, I have recently started taking the game seriously again after losing my little brother from a car accident almost two years ago. I have played in tournaments, but the 2 yr break has done no good for my chess.
My question is this, is there anyway a tournament could be set up where players had only a night, say 4 hrs for 40 moves, to finish a game, more like a tourey face to face. I say this because we all know that internet connections are bad and what not and this would be a fun way to have a more fast paced 'normal' tournament without the hassle of 'disconnections.'
Thanks for your time...