Cowards who always decline rematches should read this - Chess Forums - Page 4

Chessian-Ian

2 hrs ago

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#61

No one has requested a rematch against me but I have requested rematches before (all are ignored ofc)

Tempetown

1 hr ago

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#62

bossybwudx wrote:

The role of rematches

Rematches can be extremely valuable. They give you a chance to see how you improve over time and test your skills against the same opponents. If you keep declining rematches, you’re missing out on some important learning opportunities. Plus, if you only want to play rematches when you feel confident, you might end up in a bubble where you’re only facing players you can beat.

It leads to inflated ratings. How?

Avoiding losses: By saying no to rematches, you’re avoiding the risk of losing. Sure, it feels great to rack up wins, but those victories might not reflect your actual skill level.

False sense of skill: An inflated rating can trick you into thinking you’re better than you are. This can lead to some serious underestimating of your opponents in future matches and might hinder your strategy development.

What’s the big deal?

Misleading reputation: In the chess world, your rating is often what people see first. An inflated rating can give a misleading impression of your abilities, leading to mismatched games (that's why you sometimes people lose to a player 600elo lower, then cry about how they must have cheated)

The common excuses:

'I analyze all of my games after' ... Even bullet players I see use this excuse. Very funny

'I only have time for 1 game' ... Yeah yeah, we can see on your account you played multiple games after

'I like to always play a new opponent each game' .... Well this post is directly aimed at you.

'I only rematch if the game was close' ... Poor excuse as majority of your games should be close in your rating range

Everyone who always decline rematches are very timid at heart.... but I strongly suggest that you get out of your comfort zone and start facing your fears.

To the cowards in all rating range .... from 200 to 2700+

I bet that if you decide to respond to this post, you'll attack me instead of addressing the valuable points I made.

Sorry, dude. No one is obligated to beat you twice.

TheeChessManCan

1 hr ago

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#63

I saw this and immediately thought that this was a troll forum. Just like the “Chess.com uses bots” forum, you’re going to use terrible evidence. Right when I read your essay, I spat out my tea. Just because you lose a game does not mean that the other player should be forced to give you a rematch.

TheeChessManCan

1 hr ago

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#64

Any “good points” you made were comedy gold.

BlackholeExpert2021

1 hr ago

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#65

I'm gonna be honest I respect the work and thought put into this. I do disagree with most of it though lol. It's someone else's choice if they want to rematch, not yours. A rematch is typically a greedy player who just beat you and thinks that you're just a free win or they are a aggressive player who wants to get back after a devastating loss. Then you get the few players who actually didn't care about the results and thought it was a fun win. All in all why do you care what others think about rematches? Either the player you played will accept it or not. If they don't accept the rematch just move on, it's really not that deep. Honestly I think if you accept rematches it inflates your elo or your opponents. Not the opposite. Maybe you are having a bad day or vice versa. Or your opp has your number and is destroying you every single time. It's not honorable to accept a rematch or morally right to accept it. A rematch is just a rematch and no more or less. Personally I never accept rematches unless it is against my friends.

DreamscapeHorizons

1 hr ago

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#66

But what about players under 200 or over 2700, why leave them out? Treat everyone equal.

DreamscapeHorizons

1 hr ago

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#67

When I play online I usually rematch BUT..... I don't wanna feel stressed out about FEELING OBLIGATED or somehow forced to rematch because my opponent will go post about it and talk sht over it. If I only want to play 1 game that's my prerogative. I think most people feel that way.

If u haven't watch the Seinfeld TV show that meme won't make sense.

TheeChessManCan

1 hr ago

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#68

bossybwudx wrote:

The role of rematches

Rematches can be extremely valuable. They give you a chance to see how you improve over time and test your skills against the same opponents. If you keep declining rematches, you’re missing out on some important learning opportunities. Plus, if you only want to play rematches when you feel confident, you might end up in a bubble where you’re only facing players you can beat.

It leads to inflated ratings. How?

Avoiding losses: By saying no to rematches, you’re avoiding the risk of losing. Sure, it feels great to rack up wins, but those victories might not reflect your actual skill level.

False sense of skill: An inflated rating can trick you into thinking you’re better than you are. This can lead to some serious underestimating of your opponents in future matches and might hinder your strategy development.

What’s the big deal?

Misleading reputation: In the chess world, your rating is often what people see first. An inflated rating can give a misleading impression of your abilities, leading to mismatched games (that's why you sometimes people lose to a player 600elo lower, then cry about how they must have cheated)

The common excuses:

'I analyze all of my games after' ... Even bullet players I see use this excuse. Very funny

'I only have time for 1 game' ... Yeah yeah, we can see on your account you played multiple games after

'I like to always play a new opponent each game' .... Well this post is directly aimed at you.

'I only rematch if the game was close' ... Poor excuse as majority of your games should be close in your rating range

Everyone who always decline rematches are very timid at heart.... but I strongly suggest that you get out of your comfort zone and start facing your fears.

To the cowards in all rating range .... from 200 to 2700+

I bet that if you decide to respond to this post, you'll attack me instead of addressing the valuable points I made.

In my life, I have never seen someone with the mindset to say that rematches should be forced because you lose and you want to get a win back at them.

ibrust

1 hr ago

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#69

From a naive statistical standpoint you have the same odds of winning the rematch as you do in the original game or against any other opponent of the same rating, your mini-essay (as one person aptly put it) is not logically coherent.

Did you consider that maybe people just don't want to subject themselves to the obvious predations of a compensatory narcissist with their power-trippy, irritating personality? I mean, you obviously just can't stand losing and feel some incessant need to reassert your "dominance" over the opponent. Maybe your opponents just want to enjoy chess and thus avoid you / others like you. I can tell you that's why I avoid rematches. It has nothing to do with statistical likelihood of winning, that idea is utter nonsense.

And how could a person possibly inflate their elo by 600 points from dodging games with players matched at their current elo...? I mean, what?
How am I going to raise my elo to 2500 by dodging random games? I don't understand.

Darkmaga24

54 min ago

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#70

I have many experiences utterly destroying players and I’m gracious enough to accept rematch they start cheating. One of them the guy didn’t deny it (it was so obvious that I had my friend on the phn and I asked him to log on to chesscom and see if my opponent is doing engine moves and my friend said all his moves were either top engine moves or 2nd…) and I told him “enjoy ur account while it lasts”!! He messages me every month for like 5 months “still not banned”. Anyhow no one has any obligation to accept a rematch. If ur a nice guy and ur opponent Handslips u should accept a rematch though.

isukatchessbro

49 min ago

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#71

If a player refuses a rematch, especially in a game where I blundered badly, I just block them. I might end up blocking 90% of chess.com, I don't care. I was taught that it's impolite to refuse a rematch and as far as I'm concerned, that's the way it is. You are obligated by civility to accept a rematch when you win, unless there is some time situation. Not more than one, but at least one.

Asking for a rematch when you WIN a game, on the other hand, is just as rude.

Mrbonehead

29 min ago

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#72

People cheat on rematches, I always avoid them. I never give anyone a rematch if I have beaten them.

Mrbonehead

26 min ago

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#73

isukatchessbro wrote:

If a player refuses a rematch, especially in a game where I blundered badly, I just block them. I might end up blocking 90% of chess.com, I don't care. I was taught that it's impolite to refuse a rematch and as far as I'm concerned, that's the way it is. You are obligated by civility to accept a rematch when you win, unless there is some time situation. Not more than one, but at least one.

Asking for a rematch when you WIN a game, on the other hand, is just as rude.

I wouldn't give you a rematch. Block me.