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It's really hard to know anything about a discussion from just seeing one side of it. That makes this post a bit pointless. I'm not saying that Metris wasn't really rude I'm just saying that there's not really any way for us to know that just from you telling us that he was.
I have all proofs of my accusations. But I don't know how to copy the messages of metris to this forum. At least, he cannot delete them...
Anyway, I am not in the courtroom, so no need for anyone to take this seriously.
(I am honest!!!)
Disabling chat is not a good solution. It means to acknowledge that there are bad guys out there, and you cannot protect yourself against them.
Also I want to chat sometimes...
Mandelshtam
It's a shame to hear that and I hope it doesn't discourage you from visiting this site.
I believe that the chat feature here is either on for every game or off for every game. In the future, we may see an 'ignore' feature which would allow you to selectively block communication on a per game or per user basis.
Unfortunately it is hard to prevent such bad experienses , but at least you now know not to play against this person . It seems that anonymity of the internet can bring the worst out in people . Thankfully, I can tell you that majority of the people here are not like this :)
Sorry to hear of your bad experience.
Remember you are playing people that have no fear of rebuttal unlike in the real world you could just invite them outside for a real good ass whoopin.
They can puff out their internet chest and act like the bully they are. In reality, they probably still wet the bed and suck their thumbs.
thx, Fotoman,
for your refreshing letter.
mandelshtam
you will find troubled people everywhere. what works best for me is to minimize my interaction with them (as disable chat will do) and then just move on to people who are more friendly. i just think that if i let them get to me or bother me then somehow i am validating their behavior. so i just ignore it and move on... (it doesn't mean i tolerate it - but just be above it and don't get sucked in!!)
Sorry to hear that.I suggest you click on disable chat.Also if you want put them on ignore list click on my home,then click on account and then PRIVACY,write that name in privacy and put him on ignore list.
you can't ban the guy for teaching you lessons about chess. there was no swearing, right? banning the person would defy the 1st amendment: freedom of speech and the press. as long as he tells the truth in public, you can't punish him
correction, apparently, metris is a girl
I have never met a girl in my life (I am 53) which has bad manners of this kind.... I think he pretends to be a girl (then perhaps some more players like to play him).
I think, it is silly to talk about "freedom of speach". Metris violates elementary rules of fairness in sports. Besides, his intention is also to distract the opponent by spitting on him. As I said, in every tournament hall, such guy would be forced to leave. This should be possible in internet chess, too.
Dr.Mandelshtam,I have one question.Why you didn't write your Fide rating 2265 in your profile?
Regard
I have no document which proves it (I was asked to provide a document).
Fide never has sent me a document. But you can check on FIDE website: Friedemann Brock, Germany.
you have every right to ignore him. in tournament halls, they forbid you to talk so you won't distract others. when you talk in the chat box, there's no one else who can see it, and so they're not distracted.
Dr.Brock,you have right to put your Fide rating in your profile.You don't need document. Write your Fide rating in your profile.Are you active or inactive player? I think it is not matter...you can put free your last fide rating.
you forgive her for being a girl? just because one is female doesn't mean they could have bad manners, or not be hit by anybody. i think they are getting a little too much respect these days.
And this is a chess forum? A bit of levity is okay, but there should be a Whine list set up to accommodate those with a hang-up. Oh dear me.
I'm reminded of a saying: Fighting on the internet is like being in the special olympics..... Even if you come out a winner, you're still.....
Well, you get the idea.
This guy was just trying to get a rise out of you. I really wouldnt take it personally, but only to feel sorry for him. Clearly he suffers from an inferiority complex and seeks desperately for a false superiority. Ignore him and he'll go away. Stuff like this only validates his behavior (as erik was saying). If your opponent saw this thread, he would merely realize that he had won the chess game AND his intended purpose of mentally abusing you.
Shake the dust off your feet and move on... it's not worth it.
Dont let him ruin YOUR enjoyment, because you're surely not ruining his. (or hers... or whoever)
There are a few players on this server who are psychologically very troubled. They insult their opponents during the game. I need not to say that in a real torunament, such a player would be have to leave!!!!
These guys seem to play only to forget their inferiority in other parts of life.
Such people should be banned from this server.
If this is not possible, I at least have warned you all not to meet those types in games. We played two games, he won both (although I have much higher rating, but I played too many games at the same time).
In our second game, when I was in a bad postion, I started a combinatorial play on kingside, which may be was not completely correct, but it was a justified attempt to save the game.
SUDDENLY he told me (I had said nothing before!!!), that I should not make bad moves in the hope that my opponent would play even worse.
I responded that he is not in the position to teach me about chess,
in particular since I am better, (I have Elo FIDE 2265, he has 1830 on this server), and that he is arrogant.
He continued to give me empty lessons about bad placed pieces..., still during our game...
Then he started insulting me, saying that I (!) would be the arrogant, that I am sick, etc....
When I then challenged him again he said that he has proved in two games that he cannot lose, and that he has blocked me, since I am sick.
So PLEASE, IGNORE this guy. He is a shame for the chess community.
Dr. Friedemann Brock,
(=mandelshtam)