Chess makes me depressed (serious post) I Need Help

If it was some of the best days of ya life none of it was a waste.  Stop trying to warp facts

Don't mean to distort the facts. It was a once in a lifetime experience. Chess.com is not the same as being out in the rain playing chess on the sidewalk or on the beach or at the park. Lasker started at a chess cafe in Berlin. Now there is not as much chess in public.

I feel like you all dont realize the orignal poster said this ~8 years ago.

Somebody else dug up the thread but the topic is timeless. It was depressing for me. I felt like I wasn't getting any better at chess and that I was wasting my time. It was addictive to the extant that it affected other parts of my life.

I didn't see this one at first. Yes, I think that skill is treated as credit. I know this pretty well personally because I love chess and love participating in that world, but have difficulty learning and so can't really get past six or seven hundred. Now I like to make chess videos, and do chess web stuff, but even though I'm careful not to teach people things, and just share information etc, there's a general sense that I pick up on that I don't have a right to be in that space. You're probably familiar with that attitude. If a person isn't at least rated such-and-such FIDE they have no business rubbing shoulders with the real chess players. That sort of thing. Obviously a lot of that is projection, but it's a pretty well-established problem.

boy do i get how you feel 

Yes, but when I checked his user ID, it said he was last on line 15 minutes ago. So he must have worked through his problems.

I thought maybe training would help but I am probably restrained by my IQ It sucks seeing everyone be better than you at everything and improve much faster I wish I could grow some neurons

Stop playing blitz and start playing rapid. You get much more time to think. Also, once you finish a game, the 'Game Review' button is your friend. It will give you tips to improve, suggest lessons, and help you learn from your mistakes.

same for me but instead of chess its homework xd

It took me some time to realize that since I began playing better, it raised my confidence in my ability, which also meant that as a result, I began relying less on my calculating abilities because I became a bit cocky and would think, at least subconsciously, that I wouldn't need to calculate as much to find good moves. This caused me to only take a few seconds to calculate before playing a move, meaning I didn't take the time to check the entire position and avoid blunders that aren't immediately visible. In Blitz, this is necessary to avoid losing on time, and it is also why I can end up losing in ways that I probably shouldn't at my level (and also why I have a rating gap of about 600 between Blitz and Rapid). It would probably be better to play longer Rapid games, and, even if you don't think it is necessary, to take plenty of time to make absolutely sure you aren't allowing your opponent to gain an advantage through a relatively obscure tactic or move sequence. This should keep you from dropping below the new level you've reached, and can even let you beat higher-rated opponents and advance farther up the ranks, since they may fall into the same trap I do, especially noting the rating difference. They may think it will be a breeze to win and victory won't require particularly heavy calculation on their part. Whether or not my advice is good is subject to opinion and I do not know whether it will help you or not, but it is what I find works best in my case.

i resonate with this. god i hate this game and how much frustrated and vulgar and eventually depressed it makes me! but i keep getting back at it. it's eating at my heart, my lifespan, i don't know what else.

Being angry and stressed does raise cortisol levels, which can seriously harm your health. If you have such an emotional and negative reaction to losing a game or two, you need to work on putting things in perspective. If chess is doing this to you, there are likely other things that also bring out a stressful response that does you no good.

Is anyone playing chess with me